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Danh ngôn của Ayobami Adebayo (Sứ mệnh: 2)

I have always been very interested in the idea of loneliness and the presumption that romantic relationships are supposed to rid you of that.
I think a large part of being human centers on the state of being alone, and we try to mitigate that in so many ways.
I think, for women in particular, it's kind of like you're expected to get married, have a child, and then you get to be a person. But you don't need someone else - be it a spouse or child - to complete or validate your existence. Being human is enough and should be enough, and I hope that we all come to a point where we can accept that.
'Stay with Me' started out being very political, largely because I'm a little obsessed with politics.
I come from a part of Nigeria where a lot of value is placed on implicit communication. The 'well brought up' child is the one who can pick up nonverbal cues from adults and interpret them correctly.
There is a strong view in Nigeria, as in many other cultures, that a marriage is not complete without children. I don't agree; I'm wary of the idea that people have to have some particular functionality in order to be full members of society.